Achieving our dreams is mostly our single aim: write that best-selling book, launch a new remunerative app everybody uses, get into elite universities or have THE world changing invention. On account of this we take classes to improve our skills, watch online „how to” videos or pick someone’s brain as a mentee in order to achieve our dreams. However, have you ever thought about the opposite way around? Ask yourself how you cannot achieve your dreams and kill all of them? Food for thoughts!
In her TED Talk Bel Pesce a Brazilian entrepreneur and TED fellow analyses all the relevant factors how to destroy your dreams. She points out an overlap between dreams we have and projects that never happen.
First: Believe in overnight success. We all know the great actress who came out of the blue and enjoys her new fame’s perks, or the entrepreneur who build an app for a niche market and later sold it for millions. You might want all these things happen to you, albeit there is a side story existing. For example, J.K Rowling got turned down by multiple publishers for years before she had her „overnight success“ with Harry Potter. Howard Schultz got turned down by banks before one accepted to invest in his idea called Starbucks.
„Your overnight success story is always a result of everything you’ve done in your life through that moment.“
Second: Believe someone else has the answer for you. Let others tell you which path to take and walk through this pipe. Once you are inside this pipe, you will face new unexpected paths to take – and those are the decisions you need to make for yourself.
Third: Settle down when growth is guaranteed. When Bel Pesce launched her first book, she worked very hard to distribute it in Brazil – and eventually, over 3,5 million people downloaded or bought physical copies. Then, she wrote a sequel and worked even harder. „But okay is never. When you’re growing towards a peak, you need to work harder than ever and find yourself another peak.“
Fourth: Believe the fault is someone else’s. Our TED Fellow constantly hears people saying things like “Yes, I had this great idea, but no investor had the vision to invest.“, “Oh, I created this great product, but the market is so bad, the sales didn’t go well.” or “I can’t find good talent; my team is so below expectations.“ We believe in the old proverb that every man is the architect of his own fortune – that includes the fact that we are responsible for letting our dreams happen. “Where there’s a will there’s a way,” applies here as well.
Fifth: Believe that the only things that matter are the dreams themselves. Life is not about achieving your goals, but moreover about the journey itself. After accomplishing a goal there is not going to be a magical place where happiness is all around. Finishing a goal is a momentary sensation – your life is not. “The only way to really achieve all of your dreams is to fully enjoy every step of your journey.“
Follow all these tips and destroy your dreams at least you know for sure now “how to” do it or “how to NOT” do it.