Enough is ENOUGH!


“The sculptor produces the beautiful statue by chipping away such parts of the marble block as are not needed – it is a process of elimination.”

-Elbert Hubbard

How often do you, as an individual, feel simply overwhelmed with the amount of things you have to take care of, with the amount of tasks you need to cross-off of your TO-DO list and with the amount of expectations you need to fulfill every day, privately and professionally?

How often do you feel like you are running out of breath because this *list* is not getting smaller, but you are just getting more and more exhausted, mentally and physically?

But have you ever thought, have you ever even considered, that sometimes, when you see no exit or solution to make the things simpler, it’s time to completely turn the table? Or, in other words…

“What are your choices when someone puts a gun to your head?
You take the gun, or you pull out a bigger one. Or, you call their bluff. Or, you do any one of a hundred and forty six other things.”

– Harvey Specter 🙂

This article is about YOU taking a deep breath and saying ENOUGH.

Saying enough to bad stress, saying enough to other people’s needs that stand in the way of your own needs, saying enough to wasting time with the wrong people and on wrong things.

Some of you may think that this is just another self-help article, the likes of which you may have already read hundreds of times in different formats. But it may not be. And it WILL NOT be if you take ACTION NOW.

To help you with this incredibly overwhelming task, here is a brief formula with three examples. Ready, steady, GO!

NOW is the time to slow down, sit down and reflect:

  1. What am I even doing?
  2. Is this something I care about?
  3. Does this conflict with my values, personality, or style?
  4. Is this how I want to be spending my time?
  5. Is this something I need in the current stage of my life?
  6. Does this make me happy?
    1. If yes, why does it make me happy? Is there anything else out there that can make me even happier?
    2. If not, can I do something else instead? Is a PLAN B, C or D possible?
  7. DO I really have to do now this thing that I think I have to do?
    1. What will happen if I don’t do it?
    2. What is the *opportunity cost*, i.e. what activity/ thing am I giving up in order to do this thing now, which I think that I need to be doing?

Here are a few examples how to apply this formula:

EXAMPLE Nr. 1: @home/ household:

  1. What am I even doing? SORTING OUT BILLS AND ADMINISTRATION AT HOME
  2. Is this something I care about? NO
  3. Does this conflict with my values, personality, or style? NO
  4. Is this how I want to be spending my time? NO
  5. Is this something I need in the current stage of my life? NO
  6. Does it make me happy? Hell NO
    1. If yes, why does it make me happy? Is there anything else out there that can make me even happier?
    2. If not, can I do something else instead? Is there a PLAN B, C or D possible? Yes, Plan B: I can ignore the bills and end up without electricity. PLAN C: I can set up automatic withdrawal of invoices from my account.
  7. DO I really have to do now this thing that I think I have to do? What will happen if I don’t do it? They might shut down my electricity/ water/ heating/ parking permit or whatever
  8. What is the *opportunity cost*, i.e. what activity/ thing am I giving up in order to do this thing now, which I think that I need to be doing? I am giving up spending time with my friends/ kids

 

Example Nr. 2: @WORK

  1. Does it make me happy? NO
  2. Is this something I need in the current stage of my life? NO
  3. Is this how I want to be spending my time? NO
  4. Does this conflict with my values, personality, or style? MAYBE?
  5. Is this something I care about? NO
  6. What am I even doing? Working on a boring task/ project with people I don’t like
    1. If yes, why does it make me happy? Is there anything else out there that can make me even happier?
    2. If not, can I do something else instead? Is there a PLAN B, C or D possible? Yes, PlAN B: Yes, I can appoint/ shift the task to someone else. PLAN C: I can directly tell my boss that I don’t see a lot of value in this task and that I would like to focus my energy on something different. PLAN D: Quit my job
  7. DO I really have to do now this thing that I think I have to do? What will happen if I don’t do it? My colleagues will complain, in the worst case I will get fired
  8. What is the *opportunity cost*, i.e. what activity/ thing am I giving up in order to do this thing now, which I think that I need to be doing? I am giving up spending time on more important and fun tasks which I enjoy doing

Example Nr. 3: @meetings with people

  1. Does it make me happy? NO
  2. Is this something I need in the current stage of my life? NO
  3. Is this how I want to be spending my time? NO
  4. Does this conflict with my values, personality, or style? NO
  5. Is this something I care about? NO
  6. What am I even doing? Meeting an old acquaintance to catch up
    1. If yes, why does it make me happy? Is there anything else out there that can make me even happier?
    2. If not, can I do something else instead? Is there a PLAN B, C or D possible? PLAN B: ditch the meeting by saying NO in the first place; PLAN C: meet but tell your wife to call you within first 15 minutes that you have forgotten to pick up your kid from school and that you need to do it immediately
  7. DO I really have to do now this thing that I think I have to do? What will happen if I don’t do it? The acquaintance might not contact me anymore, we might lose contact; I might not be able to get in touch with him in case I would need him at some point in time. (Isn’t that what most people are thinking in such scenario?)
  8. What is the *opportunity cost*, i.e. what activity/ thing am I giving up in order to do this thing now, which I think that I need to be doing? I am giving up spending time the people I truly care about, I am giving up time which I might spend on a passion of mine or giving up time to go to the gym instead.

SO WHATS THE BOTTOM LINE?

At the end of the day, it is fully up to you. The BOTTOM LINE is your own judgement and your own decision about how you want to do things. But one thing is IMPORTANT: keep evaluating where you are, what you are doing and why you are doing it.

Be brave. Put yourself first. Don’t waste your energy on the things and people you cannot change and who don’t matter.

And, most importantly… EMBRACE and RULE your own life.

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