We are accidentally strangers to ourselves. Routines make it easier to wear perfectionism like a badge of honour while rushing around. We have no time or interest in letting perfection go and being exposed to the people around us. This is in part what it means to be vulnerable.
Vulnerability is a hot topic and we all are familiar with it. And yet, forcing ourselves to be open with the ideas and emotions near and dear to our hearts brings fear of rejection and shame, usually followed with ‘the feeling of unworthiness’.
That is the point which Dr. Brené Brown’s words illustrate so poignantly, “we associate vulnerability with emotions we want to avoid such as fear, shame, and uncertainty. Yet we too often lose sight of the fact that vulnerability is also the birthplace of joy, belonging, creativity, authenticity, and love.”
We too often lose sight of the power of vulnerability. An immense power emerged in Dr. Brené Brown’s research and she discusses it extensively in her talk The Power of Vulnerability.
We forget getting out of your comfort zone and being authentic is also the way to confront and conquer the fear of it, because the best part of giving love is that you receive it and learn to accept it back. Owning your feelings, ideas and weaknesses with your strengths makes you a person who can enjoy life. You feel much more connected to yourself and everything around you.
You feel alive.
Dr. Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work. She has spent more than a decade studying courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy, and is the author of more than a few #1 New York Times bestsellers.
Her TED talk – The Power of Vulnerability – one of the top five most viewed TED talks in the world with over 30 million views, is enough to give you the courage you need to give vulnerability a shot, as well as is a shout out to, as Dr.Brown call them, the wholehearted people, who are their own inspirations, who accept and embrace themselves as good enough, despite all the risks and uncertainties to come.
“…the research participants had the courage to share their stories, experiences, and wisdom, I forged a path that defined my career and my life. When I first realized and presented the importance of embracing vulnerability and living a wholehearted life, I would tell people that I was hijacked by my own data. Now, I know that I was rescued by it.”
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